13 января 2009 г. состоится тренинг на тему Body LanguageThe very best instrument there is for finding out what is going on with a person is his body. The state of the body will be a reflection of his overall state. That information is very useful, both to the person himself and to a process facilitator. The best thing is if the person himself is in tune with his body and he feels what is going on with it. But even if he doesn't, the facilitator will be able to pick up much information.
A person's external body language speaks volumes. By observing somebody's posture, eye movements, breathing and skin color, you can gain information about what he is doing in his mind. You can get the same information by listening to the qualities of his tone of voice. And this is without being psychic, just by looking and listening. Body language is a big subject and to master the reading of it to perfection requires a good deal of training and experience. Here we will just present some of the most practical things you can notice. In the absence of knowing what different body movements mean, you can simply notice when there is a change in the client's body. For example, if he is sitting perfectly still and suddenly starts twitching or moving his eyes - that is a change. Or if he changes his rate of breathing - that is a change. Let's say you have asked the client to close his eyes and move back to a past incident. At first he is just sitting still, his eyes are not moving. But suddenly you can see his eyes moving behind his eyelids and his head is jerking a little bit; and maybe his breathing gets faster. Well, that most likely means that he found an incident. Interestingly, he might not himself have noticed that. Subconsciously he has the incident right there, but consciously he might not have acknowledged it. So, if he doesn't start speaking by himself you can say "What's that?", or "What do you see?" If we are dealing with an incident, the body will often show what is in it, or how he relates to it. If his eyeballs are moving, it means that there is something to look at. If he suddenly breathes pantingly, it means something exciting or stressful is going on.
If the client is leaning forward, he is probably into the incident, involved directly in the action. If he is leaning back, he is probably seeing it from a distance.You can not be sure, just from a specific body motion, what is going on. But it gives you a very good idea. Particularly when you notice the changes in response to your directions. If you ask "Is there another viewpoint in the incident?" and he suddenly leans back, that probably means that it is an external viewpoint, seeing things from a distance. There are a whole set of signals that tell you what kind of perceptions the person is accessing. To make things simple, we can divide body perceptions into Visual, Auditory, and Kinesthetic. I.e. pictures, sounds, and feelings. That is not only what the person mostly takes in the present, it is also mostly what he has stored in his mind. Most of what you find in the mind is made out of some sort of combination of pictures, sounds, and feelings. When the person accesses an item in his mind, his body will tend to reflect what kind of information it is, if it predominantly has pictures, sounds, or feelings. Feeling has a low frequency, it is slow and deep. Auditory has a higher frequency; it is faster, more mobile. Visual is high frequency, fast and changeable. These qualities show in various ways in the body. A person will breathe shallowly and high in the chest when accessing visual information. He will breathe deeply and slowly when accessing kinesthetic information. And somewhere in between when
accessing auditory information. When accessing visual information, the person will tend to look up, straighten up his body, and make gestures into space. When accessing auditory, he will tend to look to the side, maybe slant his head and cross his arms. When accessing kinesthetic, he will tend to look down and slump over. The person will speak faster and more high-pitch when accessing visual information than when accessing auditory information. When accessing kinesthetic he will speak with a lower, slower tone of voice. You can be more or less of a specialist in interpreting all these body reactions. You don't really need to know them all that well to do basic processing. As long as you notice that there are changes and reactions, and you notice when the client is looking happy and content, and when he isn't, then you can do just fine in your sessions. But if you know body language really well you can do magic with it. People will swear that you are reading their minds, when really you are just looking at them. Presenter: Dmitry Chernyshov, PhD Date and time: 13.01.2007, Saturday, at 12:00. Everyone is welcome! |